6.27.2013

On love and why we all need some. {free printable}

I was having one of those days last week. It's funny how motherhood creates such a roller coaster of emotions. I have three kids aged three and under. I love them so much. I genuinely enjoy being a mom. It's a dream come true for me. And it's full of little moments that are perfect.  I just want to save up those moments and remember them always. But some moments {moments that seem to turn into days} are really tough. It could be something small or something huge that will set the kids off.  Whether it's Lila bawling because Ezra won't share his trains or Madelyn fussing because she needs to eat pronto, things just start piling up. I start feeling like everyone has so many needs that I'm supposed to be meeting. And all I'm askin' for is take a shower without interruption!  But it's in those chaotic times where things get really hectic that I'm forced to be humble, slow down, take a deep breath, and say a prayer. And that's when I remember that God can teach me how to be the kind of mom that I need to be.

Being a parent is hard.  I never thought that I could love doing something that was this difficult, but I do. I love the challenge that comes from being a parent and how it helps me evolve and come out stronger.  But that love doesn't decrease the difficulty.

The kids have struggled with some bickering lately. Actually it's probably just kids being kids.  It's totally normal for kids to be a touch selfish with their toys, right? I'm sure lots of toddlers hit every once in a while. I think my kids are very normal. But fighting between my kids is one of those things that discourages me most as a mom. I know my kids aren't always going to be best friends, but I want them to practice being kind here at home. I want them to remember that we're on the same team and that we have to work together. I want them to know and recognize that good feeling that comes from acting in kindness and love.
So I was thinking about all of this on that particularly difficult day; wondering what I could do to help the kids stop fighting and then good old Ingrid Michaelson's "Everybody" played on the computer and I just kept hearing, "Everybody wants to be loved."  And suddenly I realized, it starts with me.  When I show my kids love, they show others love.  Where else will they learn to love if not from me?  Then I had one of those moments where I realized how snippy and cranky I had been with the kids {and with Superman for that matter}.  When I'm sleep deprived, I struggle keeping my emotions in check and since I get an average of like zero hours of sleep per night, I was being cranky a lot more than I wanted to be. How embarrassing!
The truth is that I can always come up with an excuse for me to be cranky.  Their's always a reason why life is tough or why my day didn't go perfectly, but what am I teaching my kids if I always blame my mood on something or someone else?
I decided that for this summer, I'm going to work really hard on showing my family more love. That kind of love and kindness that I like to receive--that I want to see them showing to each other and to me and Superman. I made a little reminder for myself.....actually I made three.  Because I couldn't decide which one I liked best.  And I thought I'd share because maybe you could use a reminder too?


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