6.16.2013

Some thoughts on Dads

I'm sure it's no secret that I'm a big fan of my husband.  I mean, the entire basis of my blog revolves around him and the fact that he's Superman for crying out loud. 

So obviously, I didn't really marry Superman.  At least not the guy who walks around in spandex and wears a red cape. {Although we're getting pretty excited to watch the new Superman movie sometime soon.} 

Anyway.....my husband is my superman.  He's a hard working, smart, normal guy and I love him to pieces.  He is also a wonderful Dad.  Which is a huge reason I'm posting this today, on Father's Day.  
You see, I'm not one to throw my opinion out there for all to see unless it's important to me.  But Dads and what they stand for are hugely important to me.  Because I think Dads get put down in our society today.  I think they're often portrayed in movies and sitcoms as dumb men who act like animals and just care about drinking beer, watching TV, and hot women. I truly can't think of one man that I know who is really like that.  Just like it's easy to stereo-type a woman as an over-emotional, shopaholic, who loves to gossip, men can easily be stereotyped as shallow, unhelpful pigs who must have their wives make any or all life decisions for them.  But is that who they really are?  No. They are intelligent human beings who think for themselves.  If husbands are nice to their wives or if they're good fathers, it doesn't mean that they've been "whipped" and that their wife is in control.  It probably just means that they are considerate, kind men who need to be valued as such.  
When I'm at the store, I often see a sweet Dad who is helping his wife get through the line.  I see thoughtful men who let their kids ride on their shoulders and who quietly help out asking for little in return.  Their are so many good men and fathers out there who work hard to provide for their families.  This is the kind of man I married.  He's the kind of man I want my son to be like.  
I get tired of hearing some women talk about their husbands like they don't have a clue.  Talking about men like they are carnal animals who are thoughtless--almost excusing inappropriate behavior  simply because they are male.  It's wrong.  Men can be held to a high standard because most men are good men who need to be respected.  Men are as valuable as women, they're just different.  Equal, but different.
Now don't get me wrong, I realize that their are jerks out there.  I know that some men and fathers can be hurtful, unkind, and abusive.  I also know that women work very hard too.  I'm not trying to diminish that fact.  It's just that sometimes, I just wanna cut dads some slack, ya know?  
I know I've thrown out some opinions here and I hope it doesn't offend anyone.  I also hope it doesn't come across like I have this perfect life with a rockin' husband who never makes mistakes.  My husband is not perfect, but neither am I.  Together, we work together to make things work.  I've simply been amazed over the last five years that I've been married at how depreciated so many husbands and fathers are.  Sometimes I've been tempted to do the same thing to my husband and then I try to remember all the things that my sweet husband patiently does to support me.  I try to value my husband for being who he is.  Because the world needs men like him.  The world needs fathers who are committed, who have integrity, who work hard and teach their children how to love and respect others.  And the only way we'll have men like this is if we respect and value the ones we have.  

So Happy Father's Day!  I hope that we all appreciate the many great men in our lives.  

And now I'm off my soapbox.  :)  All done.  Sorry.  Thanks for reading!

2 comments:

  1. Great soapboxing!!
    Just wanted to add that being a father doesn't stop once kids become adults. Even as a 37 year old I need my father and I think he forgot that a few years ago.
    As a result I didn't speak to my father for 3 years. We are talking now but it's going to take a long time to repair the damage, if ever.
    So here's to being a father and mother to your children for your entire life!

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    1. So true! Thanks for adding that! :)

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